So... we've all heard the saying, "don't put all your eggs in one basket", but to what does that refer to? Does that refer to everything? I think in particular that we should make sure that we apply that theory to relationships as well. I'm not saying to go be polyamorous, or go marry a million wives/husbands, or that you can't have one true love, or a best friend... but why do you we only have to have one? Why only one BEST friend? Why is there only ONE person that we share our secrets with? My grandfather has always said, "You have to BE a friend to HAVE a friend." You know... he was right!
The fact that we put all of our "friendship eggs" in one basket is not really living life to the fullest. What happens when we stop being friends with that person... because being human, we all make mistakes, and true enough, as hard as we try, we often hurt those closest to us without ever trying to. Or what happens when that one person that we have put all of our trust into moves away, and we no longer have them near for those random moments when we need to go for a drink and we need them to be upset with us about whatever has upset us for the day. What do we do when the unthinkable happens and that one person dies? Are we left friendless? Do we have to start over and build that much needed trust again with a whole new person? Do we still have that ability? What if that person was someone that we have known for 10 years? Will it be another 10 years before we have someone with that ability to be our "Everything"?
"Don't put your eggs in one basket," and "You have to be a friend to have a friend" means that you don't just have one person... you SHOULDN'T just have one person. BE a friend to everyone you meet... be that one that they can go to... you will be happy with yourself for being that person that people can confide in, and when you need someone, you don't have to feel guilty about bothering them with your emotions and problems... you have BEEN a friend, and you deserve a friend when you need one as well. It isn't selfish... it isn't even survival of the fittest. I have heard some people say... "I have been burned by "friends" in the past... and I only trust (insert name) " . Can you really "burned" by friends if you are living a life of integrity... being a good friend to all that you can be a good friend to, and allowing them to be a good friend to you? If you take an honest look at yourself, I think that we will all see that in the instances that we feel that we have been "burned" by friends... it wasn't them "burning" us... but it was us not investing ourselves wisely in the relationships that we have chosen to cultivate.
Eggs... Basket... Friends... Love... it should all be plentiful... no holding back. That is really the only way to be able to feel that you are not alone... you will never be alone!
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